Be Where Your Feet Are

Welcome And Why This Matters

0:02 SPEAKER_00: Welcome, welcome, welcome to another episode of Sipping Tea with Queen D, and I am your host, Queen D.

0:11 SPEAKER_00: If you are new here, welcome.

0:13 SPEAKER_00: If you've been rocking with me since the beginning, cha, I appreciate you.

0:19 SPEAKER_00: As we all know, and if you are new here, welcome.

0:22 SPEAKER_00: This is a new podcast that I have created that simply was just a dream that I had for the last two to three years that I pushed myself to do.

0:38 SPEAKER_00: So I appreciate all of my supporters, my listeners, everyone who have just continued to watch me grow as this platform has continued to thrive.

0:52 SPEAKER_00: And I truly cannot do it without you.

0:55 SPEAKER_00: So please go ahead, grab your tea, your water, your little wine, whatever we are sipping on today, and let's have a quick conversation.

1:05 SPEAKER_00: Because today's episode is going to be short and to the point, but I truly think it's a reminder that not only I needed, but I do believe someone else needed too.

The Quote That Stops You

1:17 SPEAKER_00: I heard a quote recently that completely stopped me in my tracks.

1:21 SPEAKER_00: It stated, 20 years from now, you'll wish you could be exactly where you are today.

1:33 SPEAKER_00: And when I heard it, I paused.

1:36 SPEAKER_00: Because if we're going to be honest, some of us are constantly chasing the next thing.

1:41 SPEAKER_00: We're waiting for Friday, we're waiting for the promotion, we're waiting for that fancy car, we're waiting for Mr.

1:48 SPEAKER_00: Wright, Mrs.

1:49 SPEAKER_00: Wright.

1:49 SPEAKER_00: We're waiting for life to finally feel good enough for us to finally quote unquote have our ish together.

1:57 SPEAKER_00: But in doing that, we accidentally skip over the very life we've been praying for.

2:04 SPEAKER_00: So today, I just wanted to leave you with three reminders that help me back to the present moment.

2:12 SPEAKER_00: It helped me take a second and realize, hold on, D, isn't this what you what you prayed for?

2:20 SPEAKER_00: When you were in a room, didn't you pray to have your own space with a washer and dryer?

2:27 SPEAKER_00: And now we're complaining about it.

2:30 SPEAKER_00: You know, it it I needed these three three reminders to rejuvenate myself.

2:38 SPEAKER_00: And I hope that helped this helps you too, friends.

Stop Worrying About Control

2:42 SPEAKER_00: Number one, stop worrying about the things that are out of your control.

2:49 SPEAKER_00: This is something I have talked about on my podcast because simply we are humans, right?

2:57 SPEAKER_00: Some of us are worried creatures.

3:00 SPEAKER_00: We worry about anything and everything.

3:02 SPEAKER_00: And I always have to remind myself, hold on, D, is this out of your control?

3:08 SPEAKER_00: Does this serve you?

3:09 SPEAKER_00: Yes or no?

3:10 SPEAKER_00: And if it doesn't, then I have to let it go, right?

3:15 SPEAKER_00: We spend so much time stressing over situations that haven't happened yet, or trying to control outcomes that were not ours to control in the first place.

3:28 SPEAKER_00: And I can say that from you know me being laid off.

3:32 SPEAKER_00: I try to control that outcome.

3:34 SPEAKER_00: I try to try to see what I did, what I could do.

3:39 SPEAKER_00: Listen, what was done is done, D, and you have to just keep moving forward.

3:44 SPEAKER_00: You just have to keep swimming, keep keep rowing that boat.

3:49 SPEAKER_00: You know what I mean?

3:51 SPEAKER_00: And the truth is worrying doesn't change tomorrow.

3:57 SPEAKER_00: It only stills today.

3:59 SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna say that again because I don't think someone, I don't, I think someone needs to hear this again.

4:04 SPEAKER_00: The truth is worrying doesn't change tomorrow.

4:11 SPEAKER_00: It only steals today.

4:14 SPEAKER_00: It steals your peace.

4:16 SPEAKER_00: Protect your peace by focusing on your energy on what you can actually influence and let the rest unfold the way it's supposed to.

4:29 SPEAKER_00: Because you have to realize what is in your control and what you're wasting your energy on is the things that are outside of your control.

4:38 SPEAKER_00: And you can refocus that energy on things that can actually make a difference.

4:45 SPEAKER_00: Okay, friends.

4:46 SPEAKER_00: So that brings me to my second point.

Stop Rushing Your Current Chapter

4:48 SPEAKER_00: Number two, stop rushing the chapter you're in.

4:54 SPEAKER_00: Take a second and smell the flowers.

4:58 SPEAKER_00: Whether this season feels beautiful or difficult, it is still your season.

5:04 SPEAKER_00: I have a friend, right, who always told me if they got their quote-unquote dream car at this current moment, because of course we all change, right?

5:15 SPEAKER_00: He wanted a Genesis and he said, if I get this car, I will always have a smile on my face and you will not have to worry about anything.

5:25 SPEAKER_00: And in my head, I said, okay, I'm put your money where your mouth is, right?

5:30 SPEAKER_00: And as soon as he got the car, right, it was a newer car, so of course, insurance is a little bit on the higher end, especially for us living in California.

5:41 SPEAKER_00: Insurance was through the roof.

5:43 SPEAKER_00: And he is that that smile went upside down to a frown.

5:47 SPEAKER_00: And I reminded him, hey, this is the car that you dreamed of, right?

5:51 SPEAKER_00: This is what you wanted.

5:53 SPEAKER_00: So whatever comes with what you dreamed of, you head up.

5:58 SPEAKER_00: Checks out, right?

6:00 SPEAKER_00: We just have to go ahead and deal with it because you cannot rush the chapter that you're in because this is what you wanted, right?

6:11 SPEAKER_00: And it was so funny because as soon as we had that conversation, he said, you know what, you're right.

6:20 SPEAKER_00: And I said, Yeah, because how I I do it myself.

6:24 SPEAKER_00: How often do you guys do it, right?

6:27 SPEAKER_00: We finally reach a goal we've been asking for, and we and before we can even appreciate it, we're already focused on the next problem.

6:37 SPEAKER_00: We're already looking at the next issue, we're already looking at the cup half empty instead of looking at it half full.

6:44 SPEAKER_00: It's all about your perspective.

6:48 SPEAKER_00: And sometimes we have to stop and remind ourselves this is the life I once dreamed about.

6:54 SPEAKER_00: Not because it's perfect, but because it's mine.

7:00 SPEAKER_00: Take time to smell the flowers in the season you're currently in.

7:06 SPEAKER_00: Because I promise, friends, one day this chapter will become a memory.

7:13 SPEAKER_00: Which brings me to my last point.

Gratitude For Ordinary Moments

7:16 SPEAKER_00: Number three, practice gratitude for the ordinary moment.

7:24 SPEAKER_00: Life isn't made up of only vacations, promotions, and huge milestones.

7:30 SPEAKER_00: It's not just about the graduations and the big monuments, right?

7:37 SPEAKER_00: Life is about Tuesday mornings and Friday evenings.

7:42 SPEAKER_00: It's about the phone call from your loved ones.

7:45 SPEAKER_00: It's about walking your dog on a lovely day, looking at the birds, looking at clear blue skies, driving down with the windows and just enjoying the breeze, right?

8:01 SPEAKER_00: These moments seem so ordinary today, but one day they'll become the memories you wish you could relive.

8:09 SPEAKER_00: You gonna wish you can relive walking your dog 40, 50 years from now.

8:17 SPEAKER_00: Right?

8:18 SPEAKER_00: I know I am.

8:19 SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna miss my baby.

8:21 SPEAKER_00: That's my baby, right?

8:26 SPEAKER_00: Excuse me.

8:27 SPEAKER_00: So, and guys, oh my god, I got a little sick on my little vacation.

8:31 SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna have to do a little separate episode.

8:33 SPEAKER_00: I got me, I got a little sick, friends, but it's okay.

8:36 SPEAKER_00: Your girl's drinking tea, your girl be drinking tea, therapy flew up and down, moose the next up and down.

8:41 SPEAKER_00: Let me tell you.

8:42 SPEAKER_00: Anyways, I digress.

8:43 SPEAKER_00: Talk to you about that on another day.

8:46 SPEAKER_00: Um, where was I?

8:47 SPEAKER_00: Listen.

8:49 SPEAKER_00: So don't wait until something is gone to realize how beautiful it was while you had it.

8:58 SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna leave you with this quote because you guys know I love a good quote.

Final Quote And Farewell

9:05 SPEAKER_00: Again, the one I shared earlier.

9:08 SPEAKER_00: 20 years from now, you'll wish you could be exactly where you are today.

9:15 SPEAKER_00: So be where your feet are, slow down, celebrate your progress, smile a little longer, take the picture, call the person, enjoy the chapter you're living instead of constantly trying to escape it.

9:37 SPEAKER_00: Because one day, today's ordinary moments will become tomorrow's greatest memories.

9:45 SPEAKER_00: So, thank you so much for tuning in for another episode of Sipping Tea with Queen D.

9:52 SPEAKER_00: And as always, infinite blessing, my friends.